Carl Jung said that we are a conflict that rages in itself and against itself. He went on to say:

"Everyone goes through this mill, consciously or unconsciously, voluntarily or forcibly. We are crucified between the opposites and delivered up to the torture until the reconciling third takes place."

So much of our inner conflicts arise from our family dynamics, much of it unconsciously. Among the paradoxes we are tasked with resolving, perhaps the primary one involves asserting our individual identity and that of wanting to feel part of a family and find belonging. Tzvi Freeman suggested there are a few ways to resolve the contraction of opposites:

There are three ways to bring unity between two opposites:

The first is by introducing a power that transcends both of them and to which they both utterly surrender their entire being. They are then at peace with each other because they are both under the influence of the same force. But their being is not at peace - their being is simply ignored.

The second way is by finding a middle ground where the two beings meet. The two are at peace where they meet on that middle ground — but the rest of their territory remains apart and distant.

The third way is to reveal that the essence of every aspect of the two beings is one and the same.

Family Constellations is a means to understand the common threads with have with our family legacy as well as unravelling those elements which impede us from self-actualising.

What is Family Constellation Therapy?

It is a therapeutic approach which helps reveal the unconscious dynamics in a family or relationship in order to remedy stressors impacting these relationships and ultimately heal them.

Just as we form attachment styles based on our childhoods, so too do we unconsciously adopt beliefs and behaviours inherited from our larger family lineage as a way of coping and surviving.