
Bibliotherapy
Booktherapy
The right book for the right person is not enough. It needs to be the right book, for the right person at the right time.
- Johnny Uzan
Many of us have had the experience of magnetising the perfect book to help us with something we are going through or to guide us in a better direction.
A bibliotherapist, or book curator, helps cultivate this as a regular occurrence rather than the occasional flash of lightning.
Perhaps you first experienced this informally with a librarian.
In the case of Ben John, a young man from England, he unexpected had a taste of bibliotherapy as part of his court sentencing.
After downloading bomb-making instructions, white supremacist documents and writing a hateful letter against gay people and immigrants he found himself entangled with the law.
The judge believed it was loneliness that sucked him into that orbit. Rather than lock Ben up, he offered a suspended sentence on the condition that he read Jane Austens’ Pride and Prejudice, Charles Dickens’s A Tale of Two Cities and Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night.
My Journey
As a kid, I often chose the same kind of books to read. Then in High School, I was prescribed books in English class. My classmates and I were issued with a book to take home to read and then discuss in class. The teachers had an uncanny knack for knowing what developmental milestone we were wrestling with and which book would help us best navigate it.
Educational systems such as Waldorf go a step further to embed specific books into their curriculum. Sixteen-year-olds get exposed to Parsifal, a novel that Joseph Campbell regarded to be the first spiritual classic of Western literature. The imperative of the protagonist to learn to ask the right questions is preeminent for adolescents too.
After finishing school I found a mentor who constantly drew on his vast knowledge of literature to suggest books that would help me through my early adulthood. I struggled to find my niche vocationally but with the help of career authors, I found my feet. As a careers counsellor, I was able to pay it forward, offering book recommendations to other pilgrims searching for their professions.
Writing a book about career guidance, I sprinkled book recommendations throughout it. My day job at the time was working in a library where I gained more general exposure to being a book therapist offering recommendations to a wide range of customers.
A couple of years later I took a teaching job, tasked with delivering literacy and numeracy classes to people in drug and alcohol rehab centres. Forced to attend the group meetings and often withdrawing from substances, it wasn’t a very open atmosphere. Instead of diving into formal lessons, I would read them extracts from novelists such as Tim Winton. Like magic, they would inevitably open up about their experiences around toxic masculinity, mentors and other meaningful topics.
Presently, I endorse a range of therapeutic literature during life writing courses I teach or through one on one counselling sessions and retreat programs.
Nothing has illuminated my tour through life more than books. Having found my way into counselling work, combining these two aspects through bibliography has become a joy.
Benefits of Bibliotherapy
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Interconnectedness
To feel separate, misunderstood or alone in the world is an inextricable part of the human condition.
In the modern world genuine connections can be hard to find. Books can foster deep connection with another in a unique way. Presented with the right books, we feel as though the author knows us better than we know ourselves — they find the words to describe the fragile, weird, special experiences of our inner lives.
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Empathy
Books often explore the feeling world, as opposed to the dominant value system of the marketplace with its focus on achievement, status, money and power.
Literature allows us to look at things through someone else’s point of view. It allows us to consider the consequences of our actions on others in a way we otherwise wouldn’t; and it shows us examples of kind, generous and sympathetic people.
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Mental Health
Literature broadens us by putting us through infinitely more situations than we could ever directly witness. Memoirs expose us to universal themes and passages of life that we are navigating. Books take us across continents and centuries, curing us of provincialism. In both fiction and non-fiction, characters are invariably different at the end of their journeys than when we first meet them. By reading that people change, we open to growth and busting out of the ruts and routines that flatten our lives.
Cognitive Bibliotherapy
Cognitive behavioural therapy holds that thought patterns are largely responsible for negative emotional and behavioural patterns.
Our conditioning and self-talk tend to perpetuate distorted beliefs. With the advent of social media and its algorithms, many of us have a mental diet limited to existing beliefs that are reinforced by like-minded people sharing the same ideas.
The novelist, Franz Kafka argued that we take a wholly different approach when it comes to reading materials:
If the book we are reading does not wake us, as with a fist hammering on our skulls, then why do we read it? What we need are books that hit us like a most painful misfortune, like the death of someone we loved more than we love ourselves, that make us feel as though we had been banished to the woods, far from any human presence… A book must be the axe for the frozen sea within us.
When a book curator prescribes the right book it can challenge and change cognitive distortions and behaviours, improve emotional regulation, and help with the development of personal coping strategies that target current problems.
When humankind lived more simple, nature-based lives one’s tribal medicine men and women drew on herbs and plant remedies to assist with physical ailments. Having entered the information age where people engage their minds more than their bodies in daily work and life, our apothecary is the bibliotherapist, librarian and tuned in counsellor.
Author Louise Hay argued that physical symptoms and illness often begin first in the emotional and mental bodies. Western medicine can offer emergency life-saving surgeries, and temper symptoms but it often misses the root cause. After producing her landmark work, You Can Heal Your Life, she founded Hay House, a publishing company for self-help authors. Such was her belief in books as medicine.
Therapy is ultimately a quest for wholeness. As much as we’re conditioned to be self-reliant the fact is that none of us can become experts in every field. A bibliotherapist is one whose domain is the world of books and ideas. At the very least, they help us get outside of our own heads and consider different perspectives.
An alternative to having book therapy as a stand-alone meeting is to incorporate it into one of my writing or personal development retreat programs.
In order to personalise a bibliotherapy session, we will start by exploring your reading habits and life circumstances.
After discerning your preferred modes of reading, the format and genres you are open to I then prepare a tailored set of book recommendations written by a variety of authors.
Susan Sontag said that a good book is a creator of inwardness. Once you’ve worked through your reading list, you’ve invited to schedule a follow-up session to integrate what you’ve learned and issue you with another literary prescription to help you further on your journey.
As the author Jim Rohn affirmed, “To get to where you want to be in the next 5 years, you are either reading the right books or you’re not.”
$100 for an hour session online or face to face.
Explore your reading style and relationship to learning
Discuss your phase of life and lifestyle demands
Receive a curated list of books tailored to your tastes and circumstances
Your Facilitator
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Marcus Dabb had been always drawn to personal development before having a turning point when he came across the notion of the hero’s journey.
After reading Jim Styne’s book about it, Heroes: A Guide to Realising Your Dreams, he recognised that working as a public servant for the taxation office was probably not living out his highest potential.
His higher education in teaching was complemented by his time working in employment services, recruitment, outdoor education and the TAFE always with a view to helping people discover and develop more authentic vocational paths.
Finding the courage to walk an alternative career path - one fraught with self-doubt and other obstacles - began a journey that led to his current focuses, A Different Drummer - Career Counselling, Polaris - Soul Blueprints & and Writes of Passage Retreats - Personal Development Retreats.
Having worked closely with many people to help them find their sense of vocational fit and career bliss.
After running a wide variety of workshops in Australia and overseas he launched his retreat initiative in the belief that contemplation, nature, carefully curated ideas and guidance from someone who has been through the ordeals of the hero’s journey, is the ideal means for people to look at life with greater possibility and unearth their own dormant potentiality.
Writing has been an integral part of his life. After studying creative writing at university and moving into social work, he employed writing activities with clients to help them find empowerment.
In addition to teaching life writing to groups and individuals, he has published a book which incorporates life writing called, The Different Drummer: Follow your own beat to find enlivening work and lead an extraordinary life.
Memoir Writing Workshop
Stage One: Exploring your life through adult developmental psychology
We start by satisfying our left brain. The last half century has produced a field of research and literature relating to life phases, or stages of life. A timeline approach helps us contain our life story into digestible chapters.
"Believing that we are independent and competent enough to master the external tasks of life fortifies us in our attempts to become so. It is only later we discover that logic cannot penetrate the loneliness of the human soul.”
― Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
Stage Two: Incorporating an archetypal perspective
Developmental psychologists who explore the mythic dimension of life regard archetypes as catalysts for growth and change in our lives. Our personal myth, or story, connects us to universal myth and principles. Consider how many films or books involve the archetype of the mentor, who helps a protagonist on their path. Each of the 12 life phases this course covers is balanced with an accompanying archetype.
"Only a mind lacking in imagination can fail to admit its own insufficiency. Were it not for the leaping and twinkling of the soul, man would rot away in his greatest passion, idleness."
― C Jung, Archetypes & The Collective Unconscious
Stage Three: Sample life writing pieces
Each of the 12 stages includes a host of writing pieces, including people who have completed this course. As you go through the previous 2 modules, you'll be referred to the sample pieces which illustrate writing techniques and how you can flavour your writing with emotional impact.
"If something inside of you is real, we will probably find it interesting, and it will probably be universal. So you must risk placing real emotion at the center of your work. Write straight into the emotional center of things. Write toward vulnerability."
― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird
My Life Story programs are designed for both experienced writers and new writers. What matters most is being self-reflective and open to exploring life events as a way of making greater sense of their passage through life.
My writing courses are offered in a variety of ways.
The group class takes place at Camp Creative in Bellingen each January. This 5 day program covers different life phases and milestone moments. Some writing techniques are explored, as is the mythic, or imaginative approach of incorporating archetypes in our stories for greater impact.
For those looking for a deeper dive, I offer an intensive one-on-one retreat experience for an individual in the Blue Mountains of NSW. Whereas the group program spends half a day on a particular life passage/archetype, the writers retreat program spends two days on each. This enables you to bath in many memoir examples, writing techniques and go into greater depth about your life phases.
Another benefit of this course is being able to receive personalised mentoring, editing and feedback on your writing.
Lastly, there are online writing programs option for those who are not located near Sydney or who want to work in a slower, self-paced manner.
4 Dedicated Writing Programs
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Exploring Childhood
This program looks at writing your life story beginning with childhood.
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Exploring Adolescence
A life writing program focusing on your teenage development stage.
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Exploring Midlife
Write about your midlife passage and rebirth.
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End of Year Exploration
A program designed to capture and integrate the learnings of the last 12 months.
Memoirs Which Explore Life Passages
Blue Mountains Retreats
“Great things are done when people and mountains meet;
this is not done by jostling in the street.”
- William Blake
Take in a local stargazing tour at night
Rejuvenate in the Blue Mountains natural wonders
Retreats NSW
Art Retreat
Discover your creative potential and explore a variety of artistic mediums. Art Retreat
Astrology Retreat
An introduction to astrology where you learn about the zodiacs planets, signs, houses and how they impact one another. Astrology Retreat
Birth Your Business Retreat
A new small business is started every 100 seconds. Learn how to take your passions and make your livelihood doing what you love. Small Business Course
Boost Your Business
Learn how to make your business thrive & contribute to positive social change. Business Course
Breath Work Retreat
Intensive 2 and 3 day breathwork programs to help you release trauma and energy blockages. Breathwork Retreat
Career Retreat
Take a mini sabbatical to determine your ideal career & how to actualise it. Career Retreat
Couples Therapy Retreat
A program to enrich or revive one's relationship. Couples Counselling Retreat
Family Constellations
Explore your Internal Family Systems to liberate yourself from inherited beliefs and intergenerational trauma. Family Constellations Retreat
Family Healing Retreat
A program that explores the mother/father wounding and overcoming our imprints. Family Healing Retreat
Healing Retreat
Our healing retreat takes you through a range of modalities such as energetic healing, breathwork, transpersonal counselling & more. Healing Retreat
Health Retreat
Our health retreat takes a holistic approach to optimise your body, mind and emotional health. Health Retreat Blue Mountains
Life Purpose Retreat
Finding your life purpose is like the hub of a wheel, everything radiates out from it. Life Purpose Retreat
Love Retreat
Instead of gaming love, master the game of love by understanding your core needs and the blocks between you & a lasting connection. Singles Retreat
Maiden to Mother Retreat
An initiation to heal and move beyond the maiden phase of development & into the strength & centredness of the mother. Women’s Retreat
Men's Retreat / Women's Retreat
Integrate your divine feminine & divine masculine to find inner wholeness, sustain fulfilling relationships and obtain greater life direction. Sacred Union More
Mental Health Retreat
A program which focuses on working through mental health issues in a more holistic way that mainstream methodogies. Mental Health Retreat
Midlife Crisis Retreat
Midlife crisis presents us with a great opportunity to transition from the morning of life into the afternoon of life. Midlife Retreat
Mystical Retreat
A week long intensive where you learn the art of astrology, numerology, tarot & sacred geometry. Mystical Retreat
Rewilding Retreat
Recalibrate with nature, technology, yourself & your place in the world. Reconfigure your life in a radically simple and integrated way. Rewilding Retreat
Sacred Geometry Course
Create sacred geometry, learn the 9 numerology archetypes and explore your soul blueprint. Sacred Geometry Retreat
Self Discovery Retreat
A retreat centred around understanding yourself at the deepest level to integrate who you are with the life you live. Self Discovery Retreat
Self Love Retreat
Ideal for singles working on relationship patterns & those who could use some self care & greater appreciation for who they are. Self Love Retreat
Silent Retreat
Our silent retreats help you attain greater clarity through a calmer mind and clearer perspective. Silent Retreat Blue Mountains
Spiritual Awakening Retreat
A program to explore spiritual awakening and the process of understanding & expressing your soul aspect. Spiritual Retreat
Tarot Retreat
A Jungian retreat exploring the major arcana #0-3.Depth psychology & archetypal integration through a tarot course. Tarot Retreat
Wealth Retreat
There is an energetic aspect to money often overlooked. Explore the psychology of money & take a holistic approach to managing it . Wealth Retreat
Wellbeing Retreat
A retreat involving creative expression, life guidance, relationship exploration & activities - tarot, breathwork, counselling & more. Wellbeing Retreat
Writing Retreat
Each of us has a unique and interesting story to share. This program looks at writing your life story beginning with childhood. Writing Retreat
Writing Retreat (Program #2)
This program looks at writing your life story with a specific focus on the exploration of your adolescence. Writing Retreat NSW
Yoga Retreat
Discover a range of eastern wisdoms such as yoga, mediation, chakras, ayurvedic health and more. Yoga Retreat Blue Mountains